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We all deserve to find people who connect with us, who care for us, who make us laugh, who drive us crazy (in a good way), and who make us feel more excited than a popcorn kernel in a microwave.

Just someone to start, brace and end the day with even though physically you’re in different continents.

Of course, we should strive for all the qualities, not settle for two or three of the total. That said, many of us have unfair expectations of what relationships are supposed to be like.

Blame it on the movies, or Disney, or romance novels, or Barbie-and-Ken mythology, but seeking perfection in a relationship isn’t noble- it’s doomed.

So I presented myself with these options: I can end this without knowing why, I can go on because it’s habitual.. or I can wait and see if in time our differences will make or break the relationship.

Dengan sok tau-nya saya berteori, bukankah cinta itu emang meleburkan dua perbedaan? Lagian mana ada sih manusia yang sama persis, anak kembar aja berbeda kok! Makanya yang penting dalam cinta adalah menjembatani perbedaan tersebut(duhhh, sok tau banget deh saya). Meskipun banyak perbedaan antara kita, tetapi Tuhan yang menyatukan kita.  Bersama Tuhan semuanya indah dan kalau Tuhan yang menyatukan ngak ada yang bisa memisahkan, dan sebaliknya.

Think about the lottery winners: They play with the hope that they’ll score big, quit the job, buy a yacht, and party for the rest of their lives.

But the reality for so many mega-bucks winners is that they end up in a dead-end life with relatives clawing at them and bankruptcy lawyers dividing the spoils. Why? Because their expectations of their fantasy life were far different than the reality, and they end up blowing the so-called best thing that ever happened to them.

Same goes for relationships. One may hit lucky sevens with a perfect match, but if you don’t manage the fantasy with a dose of reality, your heart will be headed for bankruptcy.

I have my mood swings. *uhh.. I can hear eyes rolling* I know life before him, I survived and lived and am optimist that I can be perfectly OK without him, thank you very much, but I have to admit that it’s more
fun when we’re together. It looks like that in 38 days, God willing, I will know what the last one year meant.  Good or bad, I think we, well I, need to know.

All I can do is plan and if God willed kun faya kun, it happens. I neither need to see the entire journey along with the ending, nor do I want a 5 year plan detailing everything. All I know is that it will be alright.  God brought me to this, and God will guide me thru it InsyAllah..